Alleviate the Detriments of Bullying

ALLEVIATE THE DETRIMENTS OF BULLYING

by Jay – R5 B. Sibonga

            “The invisible wounds”… once I’ve seen this in my youngster magazine, I said to myself: “What does this mean?”

            The nightmare called BULLYING, the invisible wounds. Bullying comes in many forms. It may be physical, mental, verbal and many more. Why there are many youngsters experiencing this kind of stuff? Many youngsters today don’t share what they feel, what they really want to say. They are ashamed or they are afraid of expressing what is inside them. So even if they are experiencing stress, depression, despair and many more, they don’t share these to anyone because of fear. They don’t even share what they feel to their parents, relatives, teachers and friends because they don’t know how to start. And when bullies come along their way, it’s too hard for them to handle the situation.

            Bullying is often called “the invisible wounds” because even if this happen, children don’t tell it to anyone because of fear, and cowardice in reporting to man adult. Even they are not hurt physically, they may be hurt mentally and verbally. Most youngsters today have no intervention when it comes to bullying. They are not advised on the things they must do to stop this nightmare. These could probably the reason why many youngsters today aren’t able to face bullying squarely, and, because of these, bullying isn’t stopped and continues without anyone knowing that he/she is bullied / bullying.

            Therefore, bullying is the “invisible wound” that is not cured. Just like a wound in your body, if you don’t know how to treat that wound and leave it uncured, it may cause other complications that will make the wound worse. But if you seek help to treat that wound, it may heal and you will fell much better.

            Maybe, all of us don’t even notice that we are becoming bullies ourselves. When we call tease our friends, calling our friends with funny names, or humiliating a person in front of a mob, we become bullies. We didn’t even notice that we are hurting them, maybe not physically, but emotionally and mentally.

            I remembered this scene in our school. This happened last August 2011. me, my classmates and schoolmates are busy preparing for  the “Buwan ng Wika” celebration. I was assigned to do the “arko” together with my classmates. At first, things gone smoothly, until some of my classmates came to be with us. They noticed one of my classmates, whom they are always teasing, working with us. While we work with each other, they tease him and let him feel very down. It comes to the very point that they say: “Wala kang ulo!” I, even if they’re not teasing me, felt the anger on them. They keep on saying bad words to that person as if they are very perfect. I looked at my classmate and I felt the anger inside him and the very little patience that he still holds.

            This story is not just the only bullying event in our school that I encountered. Youngsters today want to end this never ending cycle of sorrow, but they wouldn’t or rather, they couldn’t. I liked to help my classmate being bullied, but I can’t. I am afraid that they will also tease me like what they did to him. In short, I did nothing to help.

            The best ways to stop this nightmare are: (a) saying no to it; (b) asking help and guidance to an adult; and (c) help other people bullied. So that the unseen wounds in our youngsters today be cured. Let’s work together to stop bullying, to irradiate it and to treat the wounds of bulling. Let’s help people bullied by other people by showing sympathy and support to them. Do not allow them to think you are weak and easy to be bullied. Remember that “there are no bullies if we won’t allow them to exist”.